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What Causes a Cheating Man? 15 Reasons Why

By Robin C Mac

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Although there are many contributing factors why relationships go through a breakup, when it came to men, there are 15 primary reasons as to what causes a cheating man – according to a five year study called The Couples Project.

The Couples Project Study discussed,

– Why is the occurrence of a cheating man so prevalent?

– Why do 65% of marriages not last?

– Why do the majority of relationships never make it to the marriage stage?

The study included over 500 men and focused on men and sex in committed relationships.  The objective was not to influence behaviour, such as counselling does but instead to learn what was the motivation behind the behaviour men were displaying that was causing them in many instances to be cheating men.

Questions posed

  1. What attracts you and how important is it to you?
  2. Is it important enough to cause you to become a cheating man?
  3. Does your partner really know your sexual needs?
  4. Do you feel you can honestly discuss the topic of sex in detail with your partner?

 

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And most importantly, the study included open ended questions such as; what is the reference point you wish your partner had concerning men and sex that would allow you to truly connect on this matter.  In other words, what do you wish your partner already understood concerning sex?

Some of the findings were surprising:

  • 89% of men felt their partner did not really know them when it came to their sexuality.

  • When a man initiated a break up, he usually disguised the reason into something else if it had to do with sex.

  • Men terminate relationships because they feel their needs weren’t met

  • They feel they cannot even honestly discuss the topic with their partner.

  • They disguised the reason for the breakup, probably leaving their partner confused.

And worse still, this cycle seems to be learned and repeated over and over.

The study also evaluated the accuracy of some broadly held beliefs including the concept of a female needing the perfect body to keep a man attracted.

Or, if she does not have that ever evasive body, she needs to keep a vigilant watch on her physique and keep her man’s options closed so he won’t wander.

Surprisingly, the Couples Project concluded that from a man’s point of view, both of these assumptions were false.

What causes a cheating man? 15 answers

Good question and one that was not really addressed in detail in this study but the following – free advice on dating includes.

http://www.realsexedfacts.com/ place for teens when too embarrassed to ask parents.

https://www.askapril.com/advice-columndating advice, marriage advice and help for intimacy topics.

https://relationup.com/adviceforum/main-forum/ free forums staffed by relationship experts.

https://www.aarp.org/home-family/sex-intimacy/info-2015/couples-marriage-relationship-advice-schwartz.html offers relationship advice specific to people of retirement age.

http://relationshipadvicechat.net/ relationship advice resource full of helpful articles.

https://socialnetworking.lovetoknow.com/Safe_Chat_Rooms get free advice from non-experts.

https://www.7cups.com/relationship-advice-chat-room/ –  trained volunteer “listeners,” that can help.

https://www.loveisrespect.org/for-yourself/contact-us/ geared toward teens and folks in their early 20s.

https://www.iprevail.com/ –  trained peer listeners

https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/talk-someone/live-chat-counsellor – free service where you can chat online with a counsellor for about half an hr.